Daygame Diagnostics – Part 5 – Sasha Daygame – The Three Keys
11th of November
Helsinki, Finland
Playful – check. Curious – guilty. Sexual – guilty. I been reading a book by Sasha Daygame called The Direct Daygame Bible. I wouldn’t say that it has blown my mind, but it has solid content for a beginner. For me it was a good wakeup call since it summarized well that what is wrong with my interactions with women. This applies both to daygame and dates. I have had such a huge volume of women during the period of learning game that it has not come without collateral damage.
Thus, I read from the holy book of carnal wisdom (page 53): “Generally speaking, there are three main behaviors, or characteristics you must exhibit in order to be successful with women. You need to be playful, curious, and sexual. Not one, not two, but a mixture of all three. You may naturally lean towards one of these, which is normal, but it’s important to go with whichever of these you naturally are and work on the others if they are weak. For myself, I was always naturally playful. I would joke and laugh and have a great time. But was I getting laid a lot? No.”
I really feel this. I am doing great with girls that love my playful side and some of them really get addicted to that. Having a strong playful side has compensated lack of the other two. During going lot of dates recently I have started to show my sexual side more, which has obviously always been there. That has been coming out naturally with girls that like my playful side, but it hasn’t part of the trifecta to get girls initially hooked on me. Now I started to show it more during the first date too. I am also working on bring it out naturally sooner and sooner during the date.
We go back to the source of wisdom: “Why not? Because I wasn’t being sexual and I was too busy having fun to really stop and be curious about other people. So I would only hook up with the small percentage of women who were attracted to the funny/crazy guy. It wasn’t a frequent occurrence! However, once I started shutting up and listening to women I got a lot better at being curious. I started to connect. Finally, I realized I needed to joke less and have more eye contact to get sexual and…that was that! I started having way more powerful interactions, and way fewer flakes.”
This explains it perfectly why I am not showing those other sides – sexual and curious. Playful is just more fun – plain and simple. Yet it is true that intense sexual chemistry and sparkle is enjoyable. More sex and more meaningful relationships sounds good too. I know how to bring out the sexual side and I am confident it has been fixed to a good level soon. Being curious poses a greater challenge but shutting up is a good start. Making open ended questions. What is interesting that I do remember enjoying this part a lot when I had relationships. After sex laying down at the bed and girl opening about her life.
Action points:
- Sexual – sooner and harder. Eye contact, touching and kissing. Leading harder towards a sex location. Persistence.
- Curious – Shutting up. That actual supports sexuality too. Asking meaningful open-ended questions in a progressive manner going from a surface to deeper.